Apologies it took so long to post the next update! It’s been a bit of a crazy busy lifestyle lately. So I’ll explain it all as best as I can here…! Say farewell to the life of two, say hello to three. Say farewell to your sleep-ins, say hello to broken sleep patterns. Say farewell to personal time, and say hello to this new bundle of demands. It is life changing and I’ve said my goodbyes to everything. I’m now excited to say hello to new journeys, to new adventures and to new challenges that will make ever lasting memories for the days, months and years to come.
Life. The journey life takes you will differ from those around you, but no matter what it will just keep going regardless if you want it to stop or not. So, make today count as if it was the last and just do what makes you happy. Just do it. Even if others may think it’s stupid, crazy, and or just plan outrageous, if it makes you happy, who cares?! You don’t live to please them, unless you’re married to them.. but in that kind of relationship things like this would and should have already been discussed and or brought up already before tying the knot. If it hasn’t, it’s something you should both bring up eventually and when it happens, don’t be afraid to get angry.
Don’t be afraid to be sad. Don’t be afraid to be disappointed. Don’t be afraid of speaking your thoughts and wishes. Don’t live a life full of regrets, bitterness, and hatred. The most important rule of all, don’t forget to listen. Listen to what you both have to say and listen to how you both feel. Life is full of surprises. It’s times like this that makes you realize how alive you are.
Motherhood. Parenthood. The journey, the struggles, and the joys of being a mother. No one ever talks about the after effects of pregnancy. Even when they do, it’s mostly negative rather than positive. Maybe it’s due to the fact that it takes a while for the mother to recover, physically and mentally. It takes a while for both parents to adjust, even if you were prepared for this life changing event. For the past two months I have been busy tending to the newest addition to our family. Trust me, now I understand why they say ‘it takes a village to raise a child’.
Baby E was born on September 22, 2017 at 16:19hr, weighing 2830 grams (6.2 lbs). He now currently weighs roughly around 5250 grams (11.5 lbs). During my journey and personal experiences, the care given to me throughout the prenatal and postnatal stages with the midwife services that I received here in New Zealand was beyond what I expected. When we found out I was pregnant I got the opportunity to chose my own lead maternity carer (LMC) whom I’d be comfortable with, you can read more information about midwifes here. The LMC that we chose had experience as a registered nurse, and because of that we felt comfortable going with her. Also, she was the only midwife that had space available in her calendar for expecting mothers due around September/October. In the end, my husband and I are actually quite happy we were in her care and we’re extremely sad that her work with us is done. Words may not say much but, thank you for what you do.
Never have I dreamed or think of becoming a mother. I knew eventually I would have to, but I didn’t think that day would be so soon. To my surprise I’m still in shock, still trying to collect myself as I learn how to cope with a new life in my hands. Being with children doesn’t phase me, nor does it scare me. With my background in early childhood I’ve always enjoyed being around kids, but never have I imagined having one of my own and yes it is completely different from teaching other people’s children. It’s challenging and complicated, but it’s worth the struggle.
Baby E, you arrived earlier than we expected but all is well. We are more than happy to have you with us sooner than later. We may be new to this, but we will do our best to make sure that you are well looked after and make sure that you are taught and given nothing but the best. It won’t be easy and it may take trials of error, but we hope you grow to be the best you can be with us by you every step of the way. We love you.
Along with a month and a few weeks of tending to the little pumpkin, my parents came to visit as well. It wasn’t just a visit to see their first grandchild but was also here to help me adjust and follow our cultural customs after pregnancy. Although they were only here for about roughly of 3 weeks, I feel like it was too short and should have been longer. They drove us a bit crazy but now that they left the house is empty and kind of lonely again. An empty house is not a home. Thinking back about it, having an extra set of hands around definitely helps, I think I would have fallen into postnatal depression if it wasn’t for the help. Having my parents here definitely helped me remember to eat (even if it was a strict boiled chicken herb diet) and catch up on whatever little sleep I could get. My mom was always in the kitchen cooking up a storm. She also helped take the task of changing, bathing, and tending to baby when she knew I was tired. It definitely helped me relax a little even if it was just little things around the house.
During their time here we tried to show them as much of New Zealand as we could. It was a bit hard to do since my husband was working and when it was the weekend he was still working on-call shifts. When it was the weekend the weather wasn’t in our favor.. However, we made do with what we got and made the most of it! Traveling with a newborn is definitely a new experience for me. I didn’t think it was possible or more of I was afraid that I couldn’t or shouldn’t travel with another fragile human being in my care. Before baby arrived I was a bit sad that my hopes of traveling the world was going to be put on hold, but my husband reminded me, “Just because there’s a baby here doesn’t mean we can’t go anymore, we will just have to make sure we accommodate our travels to fit a baby into it as well.” It was easier said than done. The places I wanted to show my parents were more high adventure places and in case of an emergency it wouldn’t do well for a baby. So as I planned the small trips for my parents I made sure it was simple yet at the same time safe enough to get back quickly if something were to happen.
We ended up visiting the Blue Springs, you can read about the location here. We also went to visit some of the beaches around the Waikato region like Raglan, known for their black sand and long surf breaks. We also visited Bridal Veil Falls – see below for a sneak peak of the view! The last weekend before my parents left we took them to visit the Mount at Tauranga which is a harbourside city in the Bay of Plenty region on New Zealand’s North Island. The weather again wasn’t that great, it was also extremely windy. Although we didn’t get to climb up the mount for my parents to see the awesome view of Tauranga they enjoyed the beachside view they got instead.
It was definitely an experience and from these first few travels with the help of my parents.. I would say I think I’m sort of prepared for bigger journeys to come. Now that I’m getting a bit more comfortable with the routine baby E has I think I’ll be able to quickly adapt to the new challenges that traveling with a baby will have! Although a majority of our travel was in the same country, the drives themselves were long! Throughout the whole drive around I found that the only things I worried about the most when traveling with baby is, “Are there toilets around? Where can I change his diaper? Where can I feed him? How close is the nearest hospital/clinic, etc.?” Because he’s breastfeeding I don’t have to worry about packing formula and bottles, which I’m extremely happy about! But the only thing I worry about is finding a good place to actually feed him in public. Besides those worries I can’t use baby as an excuse on putting a hold on my travel journeys, especially because in the first two years they fly for free! I love free~ Who doesn’t? So, I’m going to take advantage of that! & In 2018 husband, baby and I are going back to Japan! For their cherry blossom festival! We’re excited! It’ll be a learning experience flying with baby, but I think I’ll be okay..
Tips so far on traveling with baby: Expect the unexpected!
I’ll be posting another post soon with a short and easy pattern for cute mug cozies! So keep an eye out for that post if you’re interested in making them for someone special!
Until the next post.
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All photos taken with Fujifilm X100T, October 2017.